Laura

My Romantic Trip to Italy Alone and What I Learned

The expectation when I was younger was not to be single and living in a basement suite when I was 30. I felt awful about my life situation and embarrassed that this was where I was. I felt like a complete failure at life and love and was super depressed about the whole thing. However, I also happened to be learning about myself a great deal and I decided that 30 year olds do not wallow in their basement suites waiting to be rescued. I began thinking of things I could do for myself that I’ve always wanted to do but had put off until I found a boyfriend. One of those things was travelling to Italy, so I booked a trip and hoped for the best. Boy did I learn a lot! Read More

Tags:
Laura

How I Finally got the Commitment from Others I was looking for

When it comes to relationships, in today’s world, being committed means staying with your partner and not cheating on them emotionally or physically. But is that act alone enough to remain committed? Will that level keep a relationship healthy and strong, and when we are single and dating, is that all we should strive for when looking for our true loves? That they are willing to stay with us and not cheat? And is that the only level of commitment we should be giving to them? I learned a very valuable lesson in my last relationship. This lesson was about commitment, but not from someone else as we generally like to think it is when in relationships. This lesson was about my commitment to myself, and why I had let it die. Read More

Tags:
Laura

Vodka: The Not So Perfect Vulnerability Serum

After each apology, I could feel my heart sinking deeper and deeper into my chest as I excused my emotions and threw my own feelings under the bus. I was so scared to be vulnerable and speak up for my wanting more time spent together, wanting to talk more, wanting to connect more, because I was terrified my requests would be rejected. And so I drank, and I cried, and I communicated in a blurred and foggy state and continued to make excuses for my vulnerability when I did show it. Eventually I got tired of this pattern though. I grew weary from not speaking my truth and my frustration at the lack of love in my life grew too. This lead me to make the best decision of my life. Read More

Tags:
Laura

How to go from Expectationships to Relationships

Last week in my excitement while talking with a client I blurted out the word ‘expectationships’ when I meant to say relationships. But I actually took the word down because I felt like it was an important mix up that I had made and could possibly help others. I remember very clearly the expectations I put upon the dating process, the men I was going to meet, and the ones I started dating and it took a long time for me to figure out perhaps there was something not working with my approach.What I finally figured out was that I was allowed to have expectations, but I wasn’t allowed to use them as a block to intimacy. Once I realized that I was actually allowed to want and need things like exclusivity early on and it didn’t mean I was needy or difficult, my whole dating world changed, and yours can too! Read More

Tags:
Laura

Why I Sent Myself Romantic Messages

As a coach, part of my work is to make suggestions to my clients. I like to give a bit of homework in some of our sessions to help with letting go of expectations so they can begin to feel better about their current romantic situation. One of my favorite things I recommend to them is this: Give yourself that which you are seeking from others. I know this can sound less than helpful because there are certain things you simply can’t give yourself because it doesn’t feel the same, right?! Well, I have a different way of looking at this that has helped me release expectations and move past the grips of waiting for outcomes. Read More

Tags:
Laura

How I Handled my FOMO and Started Having Fun in Dating

Online dating has completely changed the way we find our partners these days. It can be a wonderful way to meet people we wouldn’t normally run into, but it can also create a lot of anxiety, which is not a good thing if you already have anxiety about dating! I signed up for online dating twice while I was single, the first time I signed up on 3 different sites because I was terrified if I didn’t sign up for all of them I might possibly miss meeting my soulmate. I let fear completely run my life and my free time. I had no idea who I actually was or what I enjoyed doing because I spent so much time focusing on what I thought I needed to do to find someone. I began to see that I could not control finding my soulmate and I had to step back and let my life unfold the way I wanted it to. Read More

Tags:
Laura

Why I'm Grateful I was Single for So Long

Whenever we have something in our lives that really bothers us, there is an underlying reason for it. I am so grateful to all of those people out there for asking me about my relationship status and helping me to see that it was something that I didn’t feel good about at that time. It enabled me to figure out why I wasn’t comfortable with being single. The awareness helped me to realize that I did in fact feel damaged and not good enough because I wasn’t in a committed relationship. I knew that these things weren’t true, but I also knew that this was a deep subconscious belief I had to look at before I could begin to feel differently Read More

Tags:
Laura

Speak up and radiate confidence so your dating experience is more enjoyable and fun! If you are looking for ways to be honest about what you want in a relationship, how to handle finding out someone doesn't want the same things as you, and how to set personal boundaries without scaring people away then this video is for you!

Laura

How to Begin Moving Forward after You’ve Been Cheated on

So how can you begin to come out from behind the wall you’ve built up because you are so tired of being back behind it? You don’t necessarily need to call our Ex up and thank them for cheating on you and you don’t need to accept that their behavior was OK. What can help you is acknowledgment of the situation, your pain and what you want for your future though. The only reason to forgive the situation is to set yourself free, not to make your Ex feel better. Read More

Tags:
Laura

The best thing to do while you are single before finding the One

A few weeks ago an article of mine was published on tinybuddha.com called ‘The 3 Stages of a New Relationship and How to Handle the Changes.’ I heard a lot of feedback from single ladies saying they totally understood the article and were ready to do the work, but what should they do if they were in Stage Zero?! I thought this was a great question and wanted to shed light on it because I know there are others out there thinking it and I know I always want answers. Read More

Tags:
Next