Laura

My Romantic Trip to Italy Alone and What I Learned

The expectation when I was younger was not to be single and living in a basement suite when I was 30. I felt awful about my life situation and embarrassed that this was where I was. I felt like a complete failure at life and love and was super depressed about the whole thing. However, I also happened to be learning about myself a great deal and I decided that 30 year olds do not wallow in their basement suites waiting to be rescued. I began thinking of things I could do for myself that I’ve always wanted to do but had put off until I found a boyfriend. One of those things was travelling to Italy, so I booked a trip and hoped for the best. Boy did I learn a lot! Read More

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How I Finally got the Commitment from Others I was looking for

When it comes to relationships, in today’s world, being committed means staying with your partner and not cheating on them emotionally or physically. But is that act alone enough to remain committed? Will that level keep a relationship healthy and strong, and when we are single and dating, is that all we should strive for when looking for our true loves? That they are willing to stay with us and not cheat? And is that the only level of commitment we should be giving to them? I learned a very valuable lesson in my last relationship. This lesson was about commitment, but not from someone else as we generally like to think it is when in relationships. This lesson was about my commitment to myself, and why I had let it die. Read More

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Vodka: The Not So Perfect Vulnerability Serum

After each apology, I could feel my heart sinking deeper and deeper into my chest as I excused my emotions and threw my own feelings under the bus. I was so scared to be vulnerable and speak up for my wanting more time spent together, wanting to talk more, wanting to connect more, because I was terrified my requests would be rejected. And so I drank, and I cried, and I communicated in a blurred and foggy state and continued to make excuses for my vulnerability when I did show it. Eventually I got tired of this pattern though. I grew weary from not speaking my truth and my frustration at the lack of love in my life grew too. This lead me to make the best decision of my life. Read More

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