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How to go from Expectationships to Relationships

Last week in my excitement while talking with a client I blurted out the word ‘expectationships’ when I meant to say relationships. But I actually took the word down because I felt like it was an important mix up that I had made and could possibly help others. I remember very clearly the expectations I put upon the dating process, the men I was going to meet, and the ones I started dating and it took a long time for me to figure out perhaps there was something not working with my approach.What I finally figured out was that I was allowed to have expectations, but I wasn’t allowed to use them as a block to intimacy. Once I realized that I was actually allowed to want and need things like exclusivity early on and it didn’t mean I was needy or difficult, my whole dating world changed, and yours can too! Read More

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Why I Sent Myself Romantic Messages

As a coach, part of my work is to make suggestions to my clients. I like to give a bit of homework in some of our sessions to help with letting go of expectations so they can begin to feel better about their current romantic situation. One of my favorite things I recommend to them is this: Give yourself that which you are seeking from others. I know this can sound less than helpful because there are certain things you simply can’t give yourself because it doesn’t feel the same, right?! Well, I have a different way of looking at this that has helped me release expectations and move past the grips of waiting for outcomes. Read More

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Why I'm Grateful I was Single for So Long

Whenever we have something in our lives that really bothers us, there is an underlying reason for it. I am so grateful to all of those people out there for asking me about my relationship status and helping me to see that it was something that I didn’t feel good about at that time. It enabled me to figure out why I wasn’t comfortable with being single. The awareness helped me to realize that I did in fact feel damaged and not good enough because I wasn’t in a committed relationship. I knew that these things weren’t true, but I also knew that this was a deep subconscious belief I had to look at before I could begin to feel differently Read More

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How to Begin Moving Forward after You’ve Been Cheated on

So how can you begin to come out from behind the wall you’ve built up because you are so tired of being back behind it? You don’t necessarily need to call our Ex up and thank them for cheating on you and you don’t need to accept that their behavior was OK. What can help you is acknowledgment of the situation, your pain and what you want for your future though. The only reason to forgive the situation is to set yourself free, not to make your Ex feel better. Read More

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The best thing to do while you are single before finding the One

A few weeks ago an article of mine was published on tinybuddha.com called ‘The 3 Stages of a New Relationship and How to Handle the Changes.’ I heard a lot of feedback from single ladies saying they totally understood the article and were ready to do the work, but what should they do if they were in Stage Zero?! I thought this was a great question and wanted to shed light on it because I know there are others out there thinking it and I know I always want answers. Read More

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Why we rush to define a relationship too soon

Have you ever been told to calm down, chill out, be cool or just relax when it comes to dating or meeting someone new? I can’t even count the amount of times I heard those statements from others when I was dating and looking for my soul mate. I lacked faith and confidence and did not have a deep enough connection to myself to know that I’d be okay whether the relationship had a label or not. Read More

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Many new relationships start out fantastic. We are so in love with our new partners and we say to ourselves "This is it!!!!" But then something along the way shifts, we feel like we lose the connection we had and wonder what happened. Is the relationship doomed? Nope, it's not. Find out what's going on and how you can work with this change to grow your relationship even further!

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The Antidote to Fear

In the past, I used to think that as long as I did the mental work on myself, read books, did my journal entries, meditated, practiced yoga and ate healthy that I was doing everything I needed to do in order to heal my wounds and learn to use my voice. As it turns out, I was missing one major step in the process. Read More

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What that strong attraction is really saying

Often times I would meet someone who I was attracted to and my body would go into overdrive. The anxiety/excitement would kick in, my thoughts would race and my insecurities would go through the roof. I’d constantly check my phone, plan out what to say, worry about my looks, and talk constantly about the guy I had met to anyone who would listen. I believed that these were all good signs. I mean, no one wants to marry someone they are bored with or turned off by! But there was just one really big problem: these guys kept disappearing! Read More

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How to have patience waiting for "The One"

If we want something really bad, with every fiber of our being, and we know it will help us grow, help us give back, and help us love, then we lose the ability to force it into existence. Read More

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