Laura

How to go from Expectationships to Relationships

Last week in my excitement while talking with a client I blurted out the word ‘expectationships’ when I meant to say relationships. But I actually took the word down because I felt like it was an important mix up that I had made and could possibly help others. I remember very clearly the expectations I put upon the dating process, the men I was going to meet, and the ones I started dating and it took a long time for me to figure out perhaps there was something not working with my approach.What I finally figured out was that I was allowed to have expectations, but I wasn’t allowed to use them as a block to intimacy. Once I realized that I was actually allowed to want and need things like exclusivity early on and it didn’t mean I was needy or difficult, my whole dating world changed, and yours can too! Read More

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Laura

Why I Sent Myself Romantic Messages

As a coach, part of my work is to make suggestions to my clients. I like to give a bit of homework in some of our sessions to help with letting go of expectations so they can begin to feel better about their current romantic situation. One of my favorite things I recommend to them is this: Give yourself that which you are seeking from others. I know this can sound less than helpful because there are certain things you simply can’t give yourself because it doesn’t feel the same, right?! Well, I have a different way of looking at this that has helped me release expectations and move past the grips of waiting for outcomes. Read More

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